my stomach is my kryptonite as well…

Hi there,

That belly does not warrant any shame. You are hott. You are a MILF (we’ll, um…if I were a man. Or a lesbian). You also do not look as if you have borne a child!

If it’s any comfort, I used to feel a lot like you do. Now, at 45, I’m much more accepting of myself. I just don’t stress about that stuff anymore (even though I’m single). After years of going through exactly what you describe, I just got tired of worrying about it. Now i’m just really happy that my body is strong enough to run, bike and do yoga. I feel better than I did when I was in my 20s because I am uber healthy and have let the judgments go!

I read somewhere, something along the lines of “When you die, God will not look at you for medals, or awards, but for scars.”
I have a scar that runs from my xyphoid process, to my belly button, then from there to the top of my pubic bone. And it’s not straight. THAT makes me crazy.
But your tummy, damn zerberts all round! You look great, can’t tell you even had a kid. And that is WITHOUT retouching, surgery, lipo etc.
Trust me, you may not think you look good now, but when you get to be 50, and you look back at that picture, you are gonna feel like an idiot for not showing your tummy to strangers all the time. Dancing naked on tables. Stripping. Wearing a thong on the beach.
Maya Angelou said it well, “make up for the sobriety of my youth”, break loose Linda, party down, you and your tummy rock.
(Actually the only advice I do have? Some spray on tan. Works wonders. Stretch marks won’t tan, so they leave the white lines, spray on tan, tans the stretch marks too. And darker looks better, cellulite goes away, you look healthy. Don’t tan for real though, that sucks for your skin. Don’t believe me? Use some of your bare essential make up on your tummy, then take another pic, that’s what a tan will do for you.) Do you need even that? Hell no. Again, you rock.

You are a total MILF.

“Fuck you, belly shame, now you’re on the internet.”

Man, that so belongs on a t-shirt. You should submit that to Threadless. Nice post.

You look Fab!
You’ve probably already seen this but just in case…
http://movies.msn.com/movies/zombies?GT1=7701
Have a great weekend!

I think you look amazing! i am inspired.

Awesome. Now I’m a little less afraid of my future post-partum bod.

Shut. Up.

You look awesome. I’m especially impressed with your lack of inner thigh fat. ;)

Your belly looks damn fine! You’re doing great, sister!

I think you look great!! I haven’t even had a baby and my belly well – let’s not go there!

In honor of your zombie “love”:
http://movies.msn.com/movies/zombies?GT1=7701

You look GREAT! Summer’s here…now get a bikini and show off your bod! :-)

You look great, and very healthy. What’s most amazing is your honesty. Thanks for sharing this!

Well, speaking as someone 130lbs overweight, if I had your belly I’d run around in a bikini screaming “look at me!” :) I think you’re beautiful.

It’s funny how relative one’s perspective is. I learned today that I have to get my driver’s license renewed because it’s due to expire in June. The pic on my license is 5 years old. I remember the day the photo was taken and how much I loathed it when it arrived in the mail. I looked at it yesterday and thought “not bad!” Because now that I’m five years older, I think I must look like shit. Five years from now I’ll look at the new pic and think “hey, not bad!” – so why can’t I just think that about myself now? Enjoy who I am and what I am NOW?

Unfortunately, “real” isn’t what’s in the magazines. The photos in the magazines of the supermodels and glamourous actresses have even been retouched and airbrushed because even a perfect model/beautiful actress is too flawed for a cover or an inside spread.

The other night on Letterman, Jane Fonda who just turned 70 turned to the audience and said “I just want women to know that it gets better.” That all these ideas about growing old as a woman are bullshit. She may not be Barbarella anymore, but she kicked ass on that show. She’s got a new boyfriend, she’s having lots of sex, flyfishing, and she looks pretty damn fabulous.

P.S. I’m doing a lot of turbo jamming and I notice Chalene’s six-pack belly has evidence of childbirth on it and she is a sexy, good-looking, confident woman. I would kill to have her body.

The way she looks inspires me because she’s a real live person in great physical shape with a strong confident personality. I think if she was a flawless Barbie Doll I wouldn’t be motivated to keep going.

What makes a person attractive is a combination of things. I’d say you’ve got it all going for you.

I see the body of a trim/slim woman in her 30s. If that’s your body post pregancy and without a daily personal trainer, I’d say you have the Luckybitch gene.

There’s a song Carly Simon wrote after her breast cancer surgery, called Scar. One of my favorite lines from the refrain is “Lead with your spirit and follow your scar” to me, it’s about the physical manifestation of our life experiences and a really good scar, or a stomach that has held a child is a great testament to where we’ve been and where we’re going.

You look great.

You’ve got me beat, and I haven’t even had a baby yet.

As for your gumption, humility, and proverbial balls, I’d say you’ve got me beat there, too. Well done!

I thought your belly looked quite nice. I also struggle with belly shame, and have spent more hours than I care to recall working out to get some improvement, successive approximations of whatever ideal I thought I’d someday reach. It still has yet to happen. I remember once scolding myself thought that I should spend as much time bettering my brain as I do my belly. Now I read while working out (I hope that’s helping). Kudos to you for having the nerve to post with belly pictures – I maybe need to work on my nerve, too.

I think your belly looks great – and you have obviously come a long way from the last pic. Give yourself a high five, girl!