[...] Some Soup I told a little story, it sounded well-rehearsed. « Vacation Week Recap Girl Fights September 3, 2008 So I’ve kind of been getting into it lately with this crunchy Mom fromNova Scotia. It all started when she commented over on Sundry about how letting your children cry is child ABUSE. You can’t read her first comment as it was removed, but she followed it up with her own post on the whole CIO issue, and, well I couldn’t help putting my 2 cents in. We obviously have fundamental differences on just about every theory and manner of child-rearing, but it’s somehow fun to shake the dust off my beliefs and just put them out there and see what other people think. It seems to be the whole point of blogging no? [...]

I too used the Weissbluth book, and it worked wonders in about three days. I still did get up with her once a night until the week she turned 8 months–and then checked with the doctor to see if she was really hungry–and my pediatrician said no, her stomach is big enough now to get through the night. So we let her fuss one night for a LONG time–but that was the only bad night. Two nights of minor fussing here and there and then BAM. Out for 10-12 hours everynight.

Take a look at the book, it seriously helps.

No name, no email because I’m at work, but I am a Grandma and raised two sons. When Riley whines, try what my daughter-in-law does with her 3 yr old. Look him directly in the face and say, “Use your words when you speak to me, and no whining, or I can’t talk to you.” If he stops whining, great, if not just turn and walk away. Repeat as necessary. :-) And you thought the terrible 2’s were bad?

[...] One of my favorite mommybloggers recently wrote about her six-month old son still waking in the middle of the night (from what I can tell, he’s only waking once- at 3am). She wants him to stop waking up so that she can get a good night’s sleep. She’s a working mom and also has a two year old, so her situation is much different than mine- I’m a stay at home mom who works from home doing odd things like sewing slings. The thought of dealing with a toddler and a baby at the same time literally makes me not want to have another one because of how tired I’d feel all the time. Seriously. [...]

This is her space that she has so graciously opened up for the world to read. And yes some may say that blogging will inherently open you up to personal attacks, but why should it be that way?

I think of blogging as a sort of invitation into the bloggers home. Would you sit in her living room and berate her, or any of her guests, in front of a house full of people? If that is something that you would do, if that is in your personality then I’m sure you would not have been invited in the first place. But if somehow you did get in you would be asked to leave. And, huge personal opinion here, but I think that’s exactly what should happen here.

Again this is just my opinion (that is now open to personal attacks I’m sure). But I have a lot of respect for Sundry because she is so open and honest and I couldn’t just sit by and watch it happen here.

Sundry – I am happy you announced that you leaving PD on PD because if you had just disappeared I would have missed your wonderful honesty and amazing sense of humor. Plus I would have probably not thought to search out your blog. I am just immensely sad that in doing that you may have allowed the negative vibe to find you elsewhere.

I don’t know what to tell you about how to change your delivery and possibly fit in here where we’ve managed to figure out how to say things without putting others off, but luckily Sundry can simply continue to delete your comments until you learn to play nice.