Feb
20
Do any of you happen to remember that old Ren & Stimpy episode where they run out of money and they’re starving so they masquerade as babies? (”Cute nothin’! They’re deadbeats! Babies have the world’s easiest lives. People feed them, they clothe them, they carry them everywhere they go and they expect nothing in return! In fact, I hear they don’t even have to WIPE themselves!”) Every time I see Dylan walking, I think of how he looks exactly like Ren & Stimpy did when they were pretending to be babies and walking in these great staggering, half-falling steps, with their arms outstretched and lines of drool coming from their mouths.

There must be something going on with the early stages of walking where it’s like putting on mascara: impossible to do with your mouth shut. He accompanies his wobbly steps with great happy screeches and a lot of furious panting, and oh, it is just so funny and awesome and joyous. (It provides a very nice break from some of his other favorite activities of late, which involve screaming, fishflopping, and throwing a goddamned CONNIPTION over having his diaper changed.)

We got out Riley’s old pushtoy for Dylan to walk behind, and at first it seemed like maybe the best idea any of us had ever had, because hello, how cute is this?

And also, my god, where has the time gone?

Then I remembered why the pushcar can be such a source of frustration for very little kids: they’re thrilled with it as long as they have forward momentum, but the instant it gets pushed into a corner or the wall or whatever, they have a total meltdown and collapse on the floor making dying-wildebeest noises, at which point, if there is an older brother around, the car promptly gets backed over someone’s finger, and then you have to do some deep breathing exercises because you are about to FEDEX ALL THESE PAIN-IN-THE-ASS CHILDREN TO OCTOMOM.
Anyway! The real reason I’m posting is to ask for hair advice. I’ve been growing mine out for a while and it’s officially gotten to a stage where I can barely stand it: it takes forever to blow-dry, and it’s all frizzy and unruly and needs a ton of styling to look halfway decent. I kind of like the wavy thing I’ve been doing lately with a curling iron, but again, it takes forever.
So I have an appointment for tomorrow, but I’m going back and forth on whether I should cut it back to the short bob that’s easy to dry and straighten, or just get it trimmed, keep growing it out, and hope that having it shaped will help with the amount of time it takes to style it? I keep lusting after longer hair, but I’m also thinking that maybe 1) I don’t have the patience for it, and 2) my curly-underneath, flat-on-the-surface cowlicky fuzzy hair isn’t really meant to BE long.
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I can’t even fully express how much I love those pictures of Dylan walking.
And your hair looks cute no matter what so I have nothing to offer.
You look great in both, but are able to carry off the short, when lots of us cannot. Go with what is easy…..you have enough to do right now as it is!!
Your hair looks really pretty longer. But I certainly understand your struggle. I always seem to lust after long hair and I can never make it. In fact, I recently cut mine to a bob that is shorter than your shorter picture. I think if you are miserable with the time it takes to care for it and style it… cut it. Good luck with your decision.
I like it a little longer right now. So cute! I always think I want to cut my hair off when I go to get it cut, but then my stylist convinces me we can just make it better by a new cut. I think shaping the current lenght and thinning it a bit would probably work wonders on your styling time. That is what I have discovered with my half-curly/half-straight and too thick hair. And I like my hair to be long enough to put back somehow when exercising…
You often talk about your hair’s natural texture, which sounds exactly like mine, but then in photos your hair looks sleek, cute, stylish, and nothing like the texture you claim to have.
Thus, if your hair is naturally like mine yet you can make it look as good as it does (note above comments), AND it’s easy, then I would say keep it shorter & easier.
On the other hand, I tried to do your hairstyle and I found it MORE work then long hair, which for me means shoulder-length. For me, with my own curly-underneath, flat/straight on top, cowlicky, frizzy hair, length helps the curls (when they appear) look more like they are supposed to be there, ditto for the frizz that creeps in. And there’s always the pony tail option if all else fails. So longer hair is easier in some ways even if it does take more time to blow-dry & style.
My point? Your current length is probably the most difficult one — too long for one style, too short for the other — so if you REALLY want that long hair then I suggest you try to suffer through this stage & just get the hair shaped up. I think things will get better. On the other hand, can you stand to wait several more months, though, for this to happen? You can ALWAYS get it cut short again, but it will take months of growing just to get back to where you are now.
Still, I wish I could have a cute bob like yours.
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You know what Dylan looks like in those pictures? He’s a frat boy at a party, hoisting his plastic cup of beer over the dance floor. He’s yelling “WOOOOOOOO!!!”
I am currently growing my hair out, only because with these children I can’t seem to make it in for a haircut. But my problems aside, I would say that it’s super-easy to cut hair, not so easy to grow it. So if you’re on the fence keep growing it out, just because that’s the most easily-reversible decision.
Kimbo is right. It’s the growing-out stage that will drive you craaaazy. When you make it to the ponytail stage, everything gets easier.
(Well, except the toddler/pushtoy frustration.)
Your hair looks really great right now. I like the short bob, too, but I really like it now. Maybe if they take out a little of the thickness and trim it you’ll get rid of some of the problems.
I totally know that Ren and Stimpy episode. I love Dylan’s surprised and joyous faces. Such a funny contradiction to Riley’s suspicious face as a babe.
Also, love your hair as is now. I think stick with growing it. :)
I don’t think I’ve seen the baby episode! My favorite is the one where Ren eats the bar of soap thinking it’s an ice cream bar.
Personally, I think you should grow it out. I prefer long hair on women, especially young Moms.
First, your hair is gorgeous. But if it’s taking too long, by all means do something!
1. Consider having it straightened. Maybe not the whole thing, but the bits that are really annoying the crap out of you.
2. You could do the opposite and perm it, but that’s like twice as much work and requires insane grow out, so I doubt you’d want that. (Spiral perms don’t make you look like a poodle, just in case you’re wondering. You can also get a body perm which is more like…..a soft wave. I think….my mom’s a hair dresser but it’s been a while since we’ve talked perms.)
That’s all the advice I have, sorry. It’s a good length and cut though, I wouldn’t change that. The roundness really softens your face and makes you look lovely.
The important question is what does your hair look like un-styled? As the proud/frustrated owner of multi-textured hair, at any length I just layer the heck out of it and blow the bangs straight-ish. Takes 2 minutes.
Short.
Okay, both cuts look short to me but I like the current one the best. It’s fuller and bouncier. Other than that I can’t help you at all; I’m currently growing my hair out to donate to Locks of Love. Right now it’s 11″ at it’s longest layer; I need at least 10″ to donate. Can’t wait to see your new hair!
Saskia: you will have to take my word that it looks like ASS. If air-dried, it is simultaneously flat, frizzy, puffy, thick, dull, and course. LIKE THE HAIR OF A CORPSE. Seriously, it’s no good.
ALSO: I’m pretty sure I’ve seen some of Dylan’s moves on Sweatin’ to the Oldies.
I have hair that sucks ass to dry etc. But I found the best for me is bed head’s afterparty. I put a little bit on while my hair is wet and it blow dries like a friggin dream… quick and soft and I love it.
I absolutely love the long wavy look, and frequently lust after it for my own greasy flat head of hair!
Also, boys, so cute!
I vote longer. I like them both, but there’s something a little more feminine about the wavy look. And in fact, I have similar hair in texture and in style, and have taken to using a barrette and am tired and sick of the bleh I feel about my hair lately. So maybe a haircut is in order for myself as well.
How cute is Dylan!? Hell, Fedex him to me. I’ll take a bite out of those thighs.
Wavy look!
Shorter bob! it looks great on you!
I have the same type of hair and I am growing it out. Do it!!
I’ve been growing my hair for about a year and a half now–the longest part reaches the tops of my shoulder blades and the shortest parts are just below my chin. I thought it would be so awesome and gorgeous, but you know what? It looks pretty stupid and I wear it up almost every day. Gonna give it a few more months, but if I’m not rocking it by summer it gets the axe. Cute short hair totally spoils you!
Also, I kind of need to see a picture of your UNstyled hair to believe it’s not naturally cute. Anyone else with me? ;-)
If you can white knuckle it (and not throw your brush at the mirror every morning), let it get past shoulder length and then you can just pull it back or up when you don’t have the time to flat iron it. Do you have a CHI? If not, trust me, it makes life as a flat ironer much easier.
I personally LOVE the stacked bob but I also understand your lust for long sleek hair.
See how long you can go with it. Make it a challenge and fun!! Then if you totally hate it, you can donate it to locks of love.
notmartha.org recently plugged a hair device called the “bandette” comb which might help you get through this stage. its a large-ish hair comb with an attached hair band that you can stretch over a bun to secure it even further. sort of hard to describe but it makes it very easy to make an updo that is a touch classier than a ponytail, and its really freaking secure in my hair. it budges less than a ponytail i think. you can get it at The Icing at the mall, mine cost $5.50. ps.- it seems like my hair if fairly similar to yours right now, and i’m also at the yucky growing out stage.
I think your lush layers are gorgeous, but I’m guessing that being able to pull it back in a ponytail would be a godsend on hectic mornings. Maybe try a trim for now, reserving the right to go for a real cut in a coupla-three weeks?
I love the shorter version. It really brings out your face!
I love Elizabeth Keener’s haircut and if my bangs would fall the way yours do I would totally cut my hair like hers. It’s about the length that yours is now but with more layers. Very sexy.
http://www.showtimefan.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/lword_ekeener.jpg
Oh for chrissake, you look wonderful in both of them, and I can’t be trusted to DECIDE or even WEIGH IN.
So with that in mind, I must say go with whatever causes you less angst to do every day. That’s what always wins on my head.
I love the longer style. But totally understand the pain the neck stage of growing it out. I would talk to your stylist – if she doesn’t come up with a decent solution then cut it. I do think it looks cute either way, but just prefer the softer look on you lately.
Grow it!
“Corpse hair” is exactly how my hair looked when air dried until I changed the way I cared for it. I layered the hell out of it and stopped using sulfates and silicones. There are some fantastic products out there that help turn frizz into curls and waves. My favorites are DevaCurl and MopTop. Now I can air dry and then just tweak the top layer with a curling iron – super easy and my hair is finally in good condition.
Love the short cut – it’s way more hip IMHO.
The toddle photo sequence is adorable! :)
Shorter! You seem to have a spunky, easy outlook on life, and that’s the haircut that matches your words. (Plus, it’s very darling short!)
I think we have the same hair… I wonder every morning… how can one head sport curly, straight, frizzy, fine, greasy, AND dry hair at the SAME TIME??? V. Annoying. God bless Whoorl, for she turned me onto the magical concoction known as Frederik Fekkai Glossing Cream. Amen. Their shine spray is good too… even air dried, the glossing cream at least gets rid of all the frizz…
Go for the long layers… it’s a bitch to get past that in-between stage, but worth it.
I say keep it long and see if the shaping, etc.. from the cut helps with the styling time. If it doesn’t then cut it shorter, best of both worlds.
I love it shorter!
I’m with Jonniker — whatever feels like less bother. I will say though, a good cut can solve a multitude of sins.
Don’t tell the others, but Dylan is by far my favorite internet baby. Look at that face!!! I can only hope that one day my own babies will be that cheesy. I heart him.
I acutally really like the longer hair on you. Maybe try thinning it out but keeping it long? you can always change your mind and chop more off later.
I vote short for the coiffure, or heavy texturization (lots of layers and point cutting) to give it movement.
Dylan’s thighs are particularly delicious looking by the way…very VERY munchable. Like I have to tell YOU…
I am loving your hair right now. I like the length and the wave. Don’t they have wave perms that don’t require you to grow it out more? Or have you tried the sleeping curlers?
When I had long hair, I would let it air dry, and then beat it into submission with product and a straightening iron. OR, I would wash it at night, and then put it in a braid to sleep. In the morning, it would still be slightly damp, but when it air-dried, it would retain nice waves from the braid. But, blow drying took next to forever, and by the time I was done, I was SO FREAKING OVERHEATED from having the stupid hair dryer running for so long that all I could do was lay on a cement floor and pant.
That long-ass comment to say: It looks really cute short, and you will not like to blow dry it when it gets to shoulder-length and beyond.
I like it short.
I think you look kick-arse with both styles. I like the funkiness of the shorter hair style, love the softness & texture of the longer. I wonder if trimming, a little thinning & shaping (so, really, just typical maintenance of how great it looks longer) would help with the time it takes to do it? If it did, I’d be inclined to go that way. But seriously, you look great with either.
Also, I had a fight with my husband a day ago. A humdinger of a fight that made me want to feed his penis through a vintage meat grinder. We’re still (while we’ll be more than okay) in that shitty recovery period. I just wanted to say, your “HONK” in that tweet up there on the left gave me a much needed laugh. SO fucking funny it’s seriously made my day :).
Just get the trim and give it a chance. If you cut it back to the bob, you might wish you hadn’t. I love, love, love the Dylan walking pics and the old pic of Riley. So sweet and hilarious! :)
First, Dylan?!?! ACK! Makes me ache!
Second, the hair, I love it shorter. ‘Course I might be partial to it because that’s how mine is. A bob with a short back and longer front. My hair is THICK and like you, the bottom curls more than the top layers. I have my stylist cut the shit out of it with thinning shears and it helps with the drying time AND the ease of styling. That might work for growing it out too!
Looks great both ways. I say cut it short – easier to blow dry… then put some curl in it with the curling iron. Best of both worlds!
I have friends that have had great success with curlers, both velcro and … hot. I forget what they are called. Hot rollers?
Anyway. You plug them in. Maybe you could keep growing it and ask your stylist about curling options that are less of a pain than a curling iron?
I FEEL YOU on the damned walking toys. We don’t have them but my girl MAKES a walking toy out of everything – her little rocking chair, her stand up toy, regular kitchen chairs – grrrr. She gets SO, SO mad when she drives herself into a corner, which happens every 30 seconds or so. Fun!
You have such volume!! Beautiful! And I would think that short is easiest for a mom right now… Later you can have long locks… :)
Your hair always look great, but I think something short and edgy would look *fantastic* on you.
I really like it shorter. You are a hot lady and the short hair is sexier. Your cheekbones really stand out when it is shorter.
I am not being mean when I say this: longer is cute but too soccer mom. Ya know?
Short and edgy with lots of highlights and low lights.
Your kiddos are so incredibly adorable!
I love the short look but I am kind of into that look myself right now. Every time see cute hair it is super and short and styled and looks sharp. I also just chopped like a million inches off my hair a few months back and I wished I had not spent SO much time growing it out! GL either way!
You rock the short, so I think you should go with that. I think the longer hair hides your face a bit, but maybe that’s just the photo.
Honestly, I LOVE the longer look, but if it makes you crazy, don’t do it. You can’t spend all day fighting with your hair.
And we are huge Ren & Stimpy fans here – my husband and son get them on Netflix every few months and watch them together and quote from them constantly. Dorks. Funny dorks, though.
I just wanted to say that those AWESOME photos of Dylan totally need some accompanying sound effects! Especially that 2nd Jujitsu one! He is like the world’s tiniest Bruce Lee impersonator.
Your hair looks great both ways, but I’m voting for growing it out, just for a change and maybe because I’m going through the exact same thing with mine at the moment. I did get a trim Wed. and she took alot of the bulk out, it helped alot!
Shorter!
Ooh, I love it shorter! I think it looks good both ways, but I definitely love the shorter look!
Shorter! You look like a bad-ass with the short cut.
hee! two of my boys are in that same franken-baby walking phase too. so cute! and oh man, that picture of a tiny riley is killer!
re: hair. i have very thick hair that i never blowdry because i have no time for that nonsense, and at some point about a year and a half ago, a hairdresser who i was never able to find again, thinned out my hair so that it was so much lighter and easier and faster to blowdry. and since i was just pregnant with the boys then, i still had time to do such things. anyway, maybe keep the length (which i like on you a lot, but who am i?) but see if she can thin it a bit with long layers underneath.
Both cuts are adorable on you, but you look younger with the longer, more bouncy hair. Maybe you could ask JB what he likes…
I love it shorter. I think it makes you look younger. I wish I had the cojones to cut mine that short, but it scares me. It looks amazing on you though!
at this risk of sounding gushy and stalkerish, I think you look fabulous no matter what, but I love love love it shorter. It just looks a slightly more badass, some how.
Well when I first saw the two pics I instantly thought go short and sleek again. But then I thought about how crap it is to maintain that kind of hairstyle esp. if your hair type is not naturally like that ie. takes forever to straighten etc (I know because I totally had hair like that and to keep my sleek bob I had to iron the heck out of it every 2nd day.
Your hair right now is cute and prob just annoying you because it’s at the inbetween stage. Once it’s grown a bit more you will be able to tie it up into a high pony and not even worry about styling – and also once its long it will weigh down and not seem so frizzy and boofy.
I honestly like both pictures of your hair… but the second picture just seems to suit you so well… that is what I would pick. :)
I’m all about convenient hair, and I have worn everywhere from pixie-bob to waist-length. I find the most convenient is the really long hair because I just pull it back, braid it, and leave it. Sort of earth-mother hippie style but it’s so easy. I just chopped 12″ off though and now have it super-short (which I hate, c’mon hair growwwww so I can pull you back again).
In your comparison photos, I really like your shorter one better. They both look great on you but the short one looks like “fit healthy workout girl” which is my favorite look on anyone.
I know this doesn’t help!
It sounds like you’re curious about growing it out longer until you really go stir-crazy, so maybe you should just go with it for a while. You can always just cut it later.
Try for longer.
You can always cut it after that. :)
Not sure if someone said this already, but just get them to thin it…then it’ll be easier to style and blow dry while you grow it out!
I think it’s lovely both ways, but when it’s shorter you look not just beautiful but also STYLISH like HELL. And if it’s easier to manage – added bonus!
Shorter.
I thought I already left a comment but it’s in the abyss! I did your survey, it’s off my name’s link. and I say go for the gold and grow it out! you should just get it thinned a bit while you grow it so it’s more manageable, and if you hate it after 6 months, then cut it. no harm!
Shorter!
I totally remember that Ren and Stimpy EP… I loved that show! And I agree: shorter. :)
I am jealous of your thick hair…
I think it looks great at the shorter length; very trendy and hip look
I just realized it’s been 6 months since my last haircut, so I’m possibly the worst person to give hair advice, but I love the sexy, fuller, longer, curlier do.
Also the Dylan walking pics are super cute… I couldn’t help but think that if you lined up some of Riley’s action figures around him, it would look like a perfect scene from Godzilla. Baby on the loose!
Whenever you post pictures of Dylan walking, it gives me hope for mankind. I can’t remember – did Riley make those ecstatic experessions when he was first learning?
As for the hair, my theory is if you have the face for short hair, do it. Especially if you get the type of cut that lets you do little things differently like flipped out, curled under or make cute little piggy tails. I for one, DO NOT have the face for it, so I’ll always have to keep mine long. It’s a pain in the ass and summertime is Ponytail City every day.
Short!
=)
I *love* your hair short.
Longer, the way you’re styling it now, makes you look older, to me. It’s pretty, but it’s too old for you, in my opinion.
But maybe I’m just swayed by my jealousy for how great your hair looks in the short, straightened times.
I dig the shorter on you; it fits my mental image of your personality better for some reason. Then again, I’ve been growing mine out for my wedding and it’s DRIVING ME INSANE, so maybe I’m just hoping to live vicariously through you.
your hair looks fantastic both ways – I always go for the cut that is easier to do. Fedex to octomom is the funniest thing I’ve read in a long long time … thanks for the laugh.
When I’m unghappy with my hair, I just make an appointment with Dorian at Gene Juarez in Bellevue. He’s my guy. He understands my desire to have shorter hair (long is just not possible for me), but to NOT look butch. I love him so much, I have considered knitting socks for him! Just can’t figure out how to ask him his shoe size without sounding really kinky.
I too have the straight(ish) on top frizzy underneath texture and I kept my hair short to medium short for years. Then I discovered the longer I grew it, the less frizzy it became because the weight of the hair sort of pulls everything down. Now my hair is to the middle of my back and it isn’t that hard to take care of at all. Definitely easier than when it was shorter. I say hang with it, grow it out. You can always cut it later.
I’ve read your blog since the beginning and I just want to say I think you have had the same hairstyle for a while now. I vote for a change!! Longer hair is easier to manage, you just have to wait out this in-between stage!
this might be a little late, but SHORTER THE BETTER. i am partial to short hair, though, given that i rock a bit of a punked out pixie. on the plus side short hair also tends to be easier. and your hair looks SO GREAT short and straight.
short, short, short, short, short!
you look awesome with it short and it’s easier. win win!
I like it shorter too. The longer style looks old fashioned and somehow Southern cotillion-ish. The short straight look just seems to suit you better.
Chalk up another suggestion have your hair thinned out a bit. I have really thick hair that’s kinky (not enough curl to be curly, not straight enough to be straight, so, yeah) and it was the best thing I’ve done to my hair. It’s cut down drying time dramatically (I’d say between 25-50%). I was worried that I’d have thousands of short hairs sticking out, making me look like I’m being shocked continuously, but that hasn’t happened. My hairdresser uses those scissors that look like they have teeth – very bizarre, but whatever works. It just takes a conservative hand (don’t let the stylist start chopping willy nilly). Then you can do whatever you want with length and style. (Both look awesome on you, naturally. How do you do that with the curling iron?)
Linda, grow it. You’re at the worst bit now, the in between bit. Once it gets long enough to tie back then you can wear it out when you have time to style it, and just put it in a pony tail when you don’t have time. Easy!
I have really thick hard to manage hair and I never had the patience to grow it. Then I decided that at some point in my life I’d probably cut it off and keep it short from then on, so really it was my last chance to have lovely long hair. Now that it’s long I love it as the weight keeps the boofiness at bay when it’s out, and there are lots of easy fun styles I can do with it up.
The key is just getting through this frustrating stage you’re in…
PS: Your hairdresser can always thin your hair out a bit to take care of volume and help keep down drying time etc. Also, you can always get a fringe (bangs?) if you want to change your style up a bit as you’re growing it out.
Love the pics of Dylan walking . . . and love your hair. Chill!
I might prefer the longer, but it looks like WAY too much work. (Picking up a curling iron = too much work!) The short is also very cute and works extremely well on you, so I’d go with that if you’re looking for easier!
Also, the walking pictures are the best.
Whoa dude. Short, choppy bob. It looks fantastic on you. I think it suits you much better than what’s happening now, even though both look good.
I am voting for cat. Wait, ham. LOL.
You and I have the same hair type.
Cut it. Growing it out will only take forever and when you get there, you will hate it and cut it short anyway.
I’m going to have mine relaxed soon, and cut short(er), so that I can have truly wash-and-go hair.
I think the shorter made you look more mom punk whereas the longer wavy picture looks more mini-van mom to me.
I personally am trying to maintain mom punk for as long asI can without being pathetic.
Linda – get Moroccan Oil. It will help with the friz and you won’t believe how healthy your hair will look. I have gotten so many compliments since I started using it. It’s like I have a new healthy head of hair. It cost $40 a bottle, but it lasts a long time. You only need a little bit at a time. I’m telling you, this is your be all end all. http://www.moroccanoil.com
I love both styles–go with the easiest!
I think once you go short and have kids, it’s all over. You’ll never have the patience to grow it out again. Besides, I think it looks great in that second photo.
Since you’ve already been growing it out, I say keep growing it for a little while and see if you like it any better. Worse case, you hate it, and you know cutting is always an option!
I really like the shorter do but your hair looked seriously stylish and elegant for the wedding you recently went to – with it off your face more, it really showed your features.
Octomom. Love it. Gonna use it myself.
The cuteness overload is precluding me from doing anything but ogling dylan’s bush baby triumph walk in still footage. Loves.
Oooh, I love the new look. Whatever you’re doing with that curling iron, it’s worth it.