Comments on: Father’s Day

By: jimaiemarie

jimaiemarie — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:36:14 +0000

this video was absolutely precious!!!! It gave me goosebumps, i seriously dont think I’ve ever seen a more heartwarming father’s day video along with a more heartfelt letter, what a fabulous daddy he must be! :D

By: Niki P

Niki P — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:05:30 +0000

I remember that post about your father- it made me cry when I read it. I have so many issues with my own father but the bottom line is he isn’t someone that I want my kids around. My boys are 14 and 12 and they have never met him. I struggled this Father’s Day as my youngest “moved up” from elementary school to Jr high and my father hadn’t seen a single second of this great kids life. He made the choices that he did but we all had to pay for it. I have a lot of anger.

Great video, great post.

By: Lacey (Laptops to Lullabies)

Lacey (Laptops to Lullabies) — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:48:37 +0000

Wonderfully said. I have not seen my father in three years, or even had contact with him in over a year. When my husband and I have kids, I have no intention of ever letting him meet them. I truly think of it as his loss.

By: H

Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:33:38 +0000

I missed this post earlier. Like some of the other commenters, this is a sensitive issue for me as well. I’m bitter that I can’t even imagine what it would be like to have a loving, caring father and to love him back. I don’t think about this often but I do on Father’s Day. I’m so thankful my children have a great father. I appreciate this post. It reminds me that I should be extra thankful for my husband and it makes me feel less alone, in the Sucky Father Department.

By: MelV

MelV — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 21:37:35 +0000

Oh wow! What a great video and what a precious family. I have never had a relationship with my father either. There was the forced annual Christmas phone call (him by his wife, mine by my mother) but they were awkward and rushed). We dont talk anymore now that im grown. He’s never met his grandkids, he knows about them though. I too wonder if it ever bothers him – what he’s missed. But probably not. And thats fine. B/c I have an amazing husband who wouldnt let all the fires of hell come between him and his kids and I love that.

By: Deb

Deb — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:54:50 +0000

What Shelley said – “When you have children, you really see your own parents so clearly”.

I am right this minute in the midst of deciding not to continue a relationship with my parents. When I had kids, I was my own childhood in such a different light – it was practically a primer on what not to do. I just can’t continue such a destructive relationship any longer. It is a very difficult and sad decision and both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day stung this year. My babies have a wonderful father and I am eternally grateful that they will never have a dad-shaped hole in thier hearts.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:38:14 +0000

The makeup of one’s biological family is a lottery and not all of us get winning tickets. As you know, you’re fortunate to have met and married someone who can turn around the definition of father and husband that you got from your dad. As one who is still looking for that, I’m envious.

And I will offer this: it became clear to me about two years ago that I could trip over that new example of husband/father and not recognize him until I had gotten a clearer picture of who my own father was and is. After 20 years of no contact, I went to see him. After 4 days of questions and observations, I don’t understand everything but I do have a better grasp on how horribly limited he was/is as a human, let alone as a father. Those limitations existed before I ever arrived, and there wasn’t jack shit I could have done to have changed his perceptions and treatment of me.

I’m still working on the self-perception and trust issues left in the wake of getting that loser lottery ticket. One of the things that helps me a lot is the view of your family and husband that you give us through your blog. So thanks for that. And thanks to JB for the example he sets for the rest of us.

By: rayshell

rayshell — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:26:42 +0000

Amen Sister!!! I also have not had contact with my “father” for the past 15 years. I think he sees what he’s missing and I’m glad.

What an amazing video! :)

By: marie

marie — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:22:30 +0000

as usual, that was awesome. what a tribute! i’m so happy for you, your boys & JB – I don’t know you, but I think you have a pretty amazing family. :)

ps, i won’t hold it against you for making me realize how much i suck re: doing something cool for my husband for FD…. great idea on the video!

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:10:17 +0000

Best video ever ::sniffle sniffle/discreet eyewipe::. Adorable! Thank you so much for sharing.