Comments on: Keeping score

By: Maria

Maria — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 16:22:03 +0000

Also, it’s really interesting to me to read about your insecurities and vulnerabilities. I admire your talent and personality and humor and uh, EVERYTHING about you so much that it’s actually surprising to hear you feel down on yourself. I’m like WAIT WHAT? And then I want to hug you.

By: Maria

Maria — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 16:18:40 +0000

This really resonated with me.

By: Madeleine

Madeleine — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 02:27:12 +0000

I wish I could write with half the humor and insight that you do.

By: Shawna

Shawna — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:32:21 +0000

I’ve been reading since long before you gave up booze, became a mom, etc., and you’ve so obviously moved far forward with your life. Yet, I would say that you haven’t become a hugely better person because, even back in the Diaryland days, you never would have been able to convince me that you were a bad person to begin with.

Sure, everyone has flaws, but there are very few good people that have never done any bad things. I speak from personal experience on this one: I think of myself as a relatively good person, yet I would say in all seriousness that I was probably certifiable for awhile there in my twenties and there is more than one ex-boyfriend out there that would be nodding if he read this.

Cut yourself some slack. You’ve worked for it yes, but you’ve always deserved it.

By: trope

trope — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 20:32:16 +0000

(likes post)

I really appreciated this post, I think it describes pretty well what’s going on in a lot of our heads. A lot of bloggers’ heads. A lot of women’s heads.

And about the blog comments that you get–most of my comments are not well thought out, or complete, but they are heartfelt, and I think that goes for most people here. If we say we like you, it’s ’cause we like you. I have never dragged myself out of my RSS feed and waded through the comments lounge while dinner is burning in order to lie to someone. I’m just sayin’.

By: kim

kim — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:03:34 +0000

I’ve read none of your comments so maybe I’m repeating what others have said…your comments remind me of what I’ve read about people who used to be fat – and now they are fit/thin – but all they can see is fat. Not the anorexic kind of way – but just that their self-perception gets stuck on the ‘old’ them and it’s hard for them to accept the ‘new’ them.

That said, “craven” and “shiftless” aren’t words I’d ever in a million years apply to you – and I seriously doubt they ever could have been.

I have trouble being my own cheerleader – it’s almost – if I point out positive qualities others might think I don’t acknowledge or realize my negative ones…so I beat them to the punch – or project what I think they *should* think of me on them…or something.

I’m not being clear. But – hard-working, courageous, strong, persistent, intelligent…these are the words I would use to describe you.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:24:49 +0000

The last two paragraphs? Exactly where I am.

It’s amazing how what we feel about ourselves can be so different from what’s true.

By: Kaitlyn

Kaitlyn — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:17:30 +0000

I read this yesterday than came back to comment. It’s hard to let go of the image of oneself that has been cemented in our minds. It takes more work than training for a triathlon or a half marathon. Because you train for those and then you’re done, you can check it off the list. But changing how you see yourself, or who you believe yourself to be is an ongoing task. It helps to recognize that there’s a discrepancy, which you obviously have done.
But you see, you don’t ruin everything around you, not at all. Look at your boys, your marriage, these things take so much hard work. Hard work that YOU put in because YOU want to.
You’re really quite wonderful :) Believe it.

By: Molly

Molly — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 13:49:47 +0000

I find you very inspiring. You seem like a person I would love to hang out with “in real life” – honest, clever and just not-perfect enough to make me not hate you : )

By: Karl

Karl — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 12:22:50 +0000

You pile up enough “whisper-thin” layers, and what do you get? Baklava. Yum!