As I type this, tomorrow is Election Day. Maybe when you read this we will know who the next president will be, or maybe we’ll be in some sort of godawful vote-tallying holding pattern, or maybe you won’t be able to read this at all because civilization as we know it will have collapsed entirely and we’ll all be reduced to communicating via smoke signal from the burning rubble of what’s left of our cities?

I mailed in my vote a while ago, which has always been my voting experience, either by virtue of living in Oregon or voting via absentee ballot. This year probably would have been the one year I would have preferred to vote in person, if that were an option, but I did verify online that my ballot had been received, which sadly is displayed via a no-nonsense database query and not a jaunty checkbox next to giant block letters in the Mandalorian typeface: I HAVE SPOKEN.

This household’s presidential votes canceled each other out, which is all I suppose I will say about this particular personal aspect of this election period and the preceding four years, except: shit has been hard, shit may get harder.

Deep breaths and hope. I hope our country is given the chance tomorrow to begin a healing process. I hope we can get through the day without violence. I hope we have a definitive answer one way or another. And I hope like hell we get this dangerous, ignorant, lying piece of trash out of the White House, and out of our lives.


27 Responses to “Fingers crossed”

  1. Jessica on November 2nd, 2020 1:00 pm

    I sent in my ballot as well. And while the battle lines do not exist within my house they most certainly exist within my family. (I can only imagine how rough it has been in your house…) And I want the lying piece of trash out of my White House too. Hail Marys a plenty from me.

  2. DeeDee on November 2nd, 2020 1:09 pm

    Ditto about the lying piece of trash.

  3. Kathleen Rear on November 2nd, 2020 1:09 pm

    Same, same, same! I intend to find something to distract me tomorrow. I can’t afford the emotions to deal, I’m totally out of spoons!

  4. sooboo on November 2nd, 2020 1:16 pm

    My heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine what you’ve gone through. This president has broken up friendships, families, marriages and the country. How we recover, if we get a chance, will be another hill to climb. I feel cautiously optimistic. Finger, toes, everything crossed.

  5. Anonymous on November 2nd, 2020 1:27 pm

    Thank you for speaking up.

  6. Stacy on November 2nd, 2020 1:35 pm

    Good for you for voting. I share your preferences and hope like hell we come out of this shittastic situation unscathed. I don’t know how you managed to live in a home with someone who has such different values but, more power to you lady. May the odds be in your favor.

    May the blue tidal wave unleash!

  7. Jaida on November 2nd, 2020 2:06 pm

    Same girl, same. While my husband doesn’t support Trump, we have seen our political views diverge over the years and it’s difficult to reckon with. Please, please, please let this go our way.

  8. Jess on November 2nd, 2020 2:37 pm

    While I absolutely, 100% disagree with you and have to side with your husband on this one (Trump2020😆) good for you for voting, even though you knew you were canceling each other out. Never could understand why Americans don’t exercise the right to vote. No matter what happens tomorrow I’m so happy to see so many get involved.

  9. Trish on November 2nd, 2020 2:41 pm

    Fingers crossed indeed. It’d be a luxury to look forward and not have life get worse. Torturing myself thinking “what if this isn’t as bad as it gets”?

  10. PETE J HAIDINYAK on November 2nd, 2020 2:54 pm

    This is unquestionably the most important election of my lifetime. Luckily for me my family all voted for Biden. Even my Trumper daughter had enough and voted for Biden. So did my republican sister. She lives in The Villages in Florida and even protested against Trump. :-)
    Good luck on the home front.

  11. Michelle on November 2nd, 2020 3:41 pm

    I have been thinking about your family Linda, and am sending the good vibes. My husband and I are simpatico, but the rest of my family… well, we’ve been able to “agree to disagree” somehow, and I’m thankful.

    Pete –
    As someone who used to work in The Villages, I know exactly how hard that must have been on your sister. That place is a shade of red I cannot describe!

  12. Telegirl on November 2nd, 2020 4:37 pm

    We are in the same situation with my husband and I being polar opposites politically. We never were that involved in politics but we have had many arguments over the past four years and I am so exhausted. As we drove our ballots to our ballot drop location (normal for Oregon), it almost seemed silly as my husband and I canceled each other’s votes out. But, it was important to us both to have our votes counted. I really hope that tomorrow comes and goes by safely and that we come out the other side in a better place. I can’t take another four years of this.

  13. Unfortunately, Karen on November 2nd, 2020 6:56 pm

    Linda, I’ve been reading since before either of us had kids. Now, I’m married to an immigrant and mother to a little person of color. Every blue vote is a vote for the safety of my family. Time to take out the trash. #votehimout

  14. Jill on November 2nd, 2020 9:50 pm

    Last election I voted for Trump and my husband voted for Clinton. This year I voted for Biden; the first time in my life I have voted for a Democrat. I know a lot of friends from my days working in party politics who have switched over this year as well. We live overseas due to my husband’s work, so when I wake up tomorrow morning polls will have started closing and I anticipate spending the day watching election returns and hoping that we see a blue landslide. I mailed in my vote weeks ago and while my husband’s was accpeted in his homestate mine so far has not been, but there is not much I can do about it at this point other than hope for a decisive election and a peaceful transition of power.

  15. nonsoccermom on November 2nd, 2020 9:50 pm

    I can’t imagine how hard it is to have opposing views from your spouse. My parents are Trumpers and it has irrevocably damaged our relationship. This is just a really dark time, even from my privileged white lady vantage point, and I am heartsick for all of the people that have things so much worse. I desperately want that orange asshat out of office. Fingers crossed that soon things get better for all of us.

  16. kerstin on November 3rd, 2020 1:32 am

    Watching from Europe and hoping, hoping, hoping along with you – for all my American friends but also the rest of the world. Fingers and everything else crossed.

  17. Belle on November 3rd, 2020 8:52 am

    We both voted for Biden, one of us in-person early, and the other by mail/drop off box. I have a bottle of wine ready and waiting – either for celebration or for drowning my sorrows and fears. I cannot imagine another 4 years of this idiot and want my anxiety to drop back to normal!

  18. Meghan Weisenburger on November 3rd, 2020 12:20 pm

    My parents have cancelled each other out my entire lifetime, and have managed to 1) stay married for 51 years, for better or worse and 2) continue voting in every election even though they each knew their vote was matched by an opposing one. Keep on keepin’ on, Linda. <3

  19. Jill on November 3rd, 2020 1:37 pm

    I am just ready for all of it to be over. I am done with both parties (I have been a registered independent for a long time now) Quite frankly, I am so disgusted with both sides and for the first time in my life, I voted for a 3rd party candidate. No, I do not think I ‘threw away my vote”. I truly believe I voted for the candidate that best represents me and where I stand on the issues.
    Linda- I am glad you and your husband can see beyond politics in your relationship. It gives me hope for humanity. Prayers for a peaceful transfer of power when it is all said and done.

  20. justme on November 3rd, 2020 1:42 pm

    I didn’t vote for either major candidate last election. I couldn’t vote for Trump even though I have always voted Republican. This time, I felt it wasn’t enough to just not vote for him…I had to vote against him. He has to go. As a conservative, as a woman, as a human…I can’t be associated with someone who fights against all those things that I am. My vote is with the blue, and my heart is with all of you. Hoping this finally ends and that the next four years are better and more peaceful than the last.

  21. Shawna on November 3rd, 2020 1:55 pm

    You are a bigger person than I could be. I know it’s easier to say than do, but I cannot imagine staying with someone who thinks any advantage gained is worth accepting a misogynistic, xenophobic, homophobic, morally-bankrupt racist as the leader of my country and its public face to the world. I’m lucky my family and close friends are of the same mind as me, but my opinion of some acquaintances (now former acquaintances) has been irrevocably harmed by their support of Trump. The fact that I’m Canadian doesn’t lessen the degree to which I am utterly appalled that anyone can align themselves with him.

  22. Shawna on November 3rd, 2020 1:59 pm

    I want to make sure you know that I know your husband has great qualities and that you love him. I’m trying to say (but don’t think I was clear) that I admire you for being able to hold onto those things and get past your political differences because I don’t believe I could be that strong.

  23. Valarie on November 3rd, 2020 2:22 pm

    Thank you so very much for voting.
    As a gay woman married to a woman who has MS – I am terrified of what will happen to my right to be married as well as terrified for my wife’s health considering her pre-existing condition if we don’t vote out this terrible, heartless, menace in the White House.

  24. Mackenna on November 3rd, 2020 9:21 pm

    It’s a nail biter for sure. I still have faith in the “democratic experiment” which the Putin bots for Trump call a failure – as if we’d trade places with a Russian. No more Trump – he’s a flat out crook – would be a step in the right direction, but what happens in the aftermath of his ruinous reign will remain. That’s the tough part.

  25. Jules on November 4th, 2020 3:29 pm

    I’m a naturalized British born Canadian , so our families voting doesn’t fall under the 2 party status , either/or you have there. Our last general election my husband and I went to the polls together as we’ve done all our adult life. AT the polls my husband asked to speak to the returns officer to formally decline his ballot. That means here it’s counted but not, if you get my drift. I was MORTIFIED. I’m not a fan of attention at any time, so what this rambling diatribe is trying to say is that’s it’s not easy having very different political opinions and I feel for you AND your nation.

  26. anonymous on November 7th, 2020 11:45 am

    I keep checking your blog to see if you’ve updated. Similar political divide over here, and you’re so right about the shit being hard. There’s lots of talk about voter fraud, etc. Sigh.

  27. Anonymous on November 8th, 2020 6:49 am

    My husband and I cancelled out each other’s vote, too. It’s been a rough 4 years. I voted 3rd party in 2016, both disbelieving that Trump would be elected, and underestimating his detriment to the country. It’s hard to see past this divide moving forward; I can’t go back to being indifferent/apolitical like I was when I was younger, which must have been how he & I managed to connect meaningfully in the first place.

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