Jan
30
It is hard to get out of a loop of wishing things were different than they are.
When I used to visit with my hospice patient Isabelle, something I often did was to use a little cuticle oil pen on her nails. It was something I carried in my purse, just this almond oil pen dispenser with a brush at the tip. She always liked it; I would paint the oil on her nails then rub it in, one by one, until she would admire her shiny nails and I would do my own. It felt like a little manicure session, a tiny bit of luxury, and because she was not able to remember, each time it was equally delightful. Her surprise at how it worked, her pleasure. When I last saw her, when she lay dying in bed and I held her sweet small fragile hand, I wanted so badly to do her nails, and I went digging and digging in my purse and the pen was gone. It was just gone and I haven’t found it since, somehow it disappeared and when I most wanted it I could not use it to paint dear Isabelle’s nails one final time. And I wished over and over for that not to be true, for my last visit to have included the small gesture of rubbing oil into her fingers, or maybe that I would have simply asked for some moisturizer, that would have gladly been given to me, I wish I would have done that but I did not. I didn’t have the pen and I just held her hand and that was okay, I know, but also I wish it had been different.
I wish so many things were different. I wish the election had been different. I wish my divorce was different. I wish my boys were chatty texters who cannot stop themselves from sending me many pictures from their days. I wish my mom and aunt lived closer. I wish that when I gain weight it would go somewhere other than my waist and boobs. I wish if we are in the business of just erasing truths and laws we could go ahead and get rid of daylight savings. I wish AI was being incorporated in truly useful ways and not just shoved willy-nilly into nook and cranny of humanity. I wish the social networks that algorithmically drive our opinions and actions were being run by relatable human beings. I wish guns simply did not exist. I wish delicous salty nuts did not have so very many calories. I wish owning a horse wasn’t so expensive. I wish our cultural beauty standards driven by capitalism would evaporate. I wish avocados and bananas had a lengthier ripeness stage. I wish mouthbreathing idiots would stop loudly confusing global warming with cold temperatures. I wish my cat could live forever.
Anyway. It is often hard to get out of the loop, and I wish it wasn’t.
Jan
25
I am writing with so much rage in my chest and none of this will be as damning as I want it to be. Nothing I can post on this tiny corner of internet space will be what I want it to be, I’m not the right voice, I don’t have the right words. I just want it to be known, I want there to be a record of this moment in time along with all the others. I am so angry, I am so sad, I am so scared. But mostly I am so goddamned enraged, at so many things but specifically the hypocrisy of the pro-2A crowd. The people who have for so many years gone on and on about the right to bear arms, the right to be able to fight back against a hypothetical tyrannical government, and here it is happening right before our very eyes and they do not care. I don’t know how a person can bend themselves into a position that agrees with the administration’s lies about Renee Good and Alex Pretti. I don’t know how a person supports any of it at this point, the blatant dismantling of democracy by — and this is the WORST part! — the ugliest, most idiotic and uninformed nasty people on earth. (Like…it would be something else if they were wildly charismatic diabolical geniuses but no. Just actual literal garbage humans.) I’m so fucking mad at everyone who downplayed what this administration would be capable of. I’m so disgusted by the absolute chickenshit weakness of every man and woman who supports this insanity, the ones who talk about both sides, the ones who declare they aren’t political, all these clowns with no spine or heart.
I just wanted to say that here today. It’s not enough, nothing is enough until we are no longer being ruled by a cruel and stupid dictator thanks to his foolish and bamboozled followers, but that’s what I want to say.
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