I was watching Before the Devil Knows You’re Dead a couple weeks ago and there are multiple scenes where Marisa Tomei is wearing nothing more than a trailing bedsheet while she does something girlishly sexy like screw in an earring or flip her hair around and I couldn’t help noticing that her breasts, like, defy gravity.

I mean they actually point upward, each nipple bouncing joyously towards the ceiling. The rest of her body is flawlessly Hollywood-slender and probably pummeled into shape via Pilates and lettuce wraps, but what the hell, the woman was born in 1964, please explain how she has the boobs of a teenager.

My own personal chest region . . . well, two pregnancies and some weight gain/loss throughout the years haven’t been kind. When I get undressed, my boobs essentially drop to the floor and roll merrily under the nearest large piece of furniture. I have to buy those multiple-hook bras with thick straps and bolstered edges, and the one time I tried a pushup bra it was like trying to cram a bread pudding into a thimble.

Clothing designers are by and large an evil lot whose lifelong purpose involves frustrating the people that buy their wares — why else would I have four different sizes in my closet — but there is something particularly cruel going on with necklines these days. I can’t wear a plunging neckline because no one wants to see my, ah, sagging ruins, or the top of my sturdy, German-designed utilitarian bra, and I can’t wear a single item of clothing that requires a strapless bra (or worse, no bra at all), and let me tell you, there are not many pretty dresses out there designed with the gravity-challenged woman in mind.

I can tell you from experience that you can make a lot of changes to your body with diet and exercise, but all the pushups in the world won’t lift something that’s long since lost its boinga boinga, if you know what I mean and I think you do.

So tell me, should the finances ever align in my favor, do you think there’s anything wrong with marching into a plastic surgeon’s office and asking that they give me Marisa Tomei’s tits? I’m all done having babies and I hope I’m all done expanding and contracting, for the most part. From here on out, these sweater-puppies are nothing more than an adornment, so, you know, I’m just thinking it would be nice if they didn’t touch the tops of my shoes when I bend over.

Seriously, would you ever get plastic surgery? On the one hand, it sort of goes against the whole befriend-your-body thing I’ve been embracing lately; on the other, I WANT NEW BOINGA.

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JMH
JMH
15 years ago

Personlly, I wouldn’t have surgery unless I had too (like if I had to have a masectomy) But it is your body and your choice. If it were me, I would do a LOT of research first.

mixette
mixette
15 years ago

Seriously, yes I would and yes I have.

Two years ago my sister, after having 2 kids, decided to go forward with a breast reduction. She researched the s*it about plastic surgeons, decided on one and then asked if I would help her with the recovery.

My mother, who is the last person on earth I thought would suggest such a thing told me that I should have a consult myself with the surgeon about liposuction on my chin. I’d always had a double chin – even being fit and healthy. It’s just one of those hereditary areas that if you have it, you just can’t get rid of it any other way.

So now I have a lovely chin and my sister’s boobs look great, don’t make her feel unhappy with her body, and don’t get in the way of moving around or exercising.

We both had a very good experience. I think we were both realistic about the outcome, found a trusted doctor, and had a healthy attitude: just fixing something that bothered us daily.

Connie
Connie
15 years ago

Nothing wrong with asking the doc to put them back where God intended.

Craze
15 years ago

I would totally get a boob lift if I could.
Well.. I thought that until last week when the wrinkles under my eyes multiplied by 10. Now I think I’d rather have them fixed. Seriously, I think someone needs to get into the market of producing sexy, colorful, big boobed bras.

Laura
15 years ago

I wouldn’t mind getting plastic surgery for “the girls” – particularly since Harriet (that’s “righty”) is somewhat of different proportion than Leslie (that’s “lefty”). Not horribly so, but enough that I notice. And so does my husband. I asked if he had a favorite. He wouldn’t tell me.

Pete
Pete
15 years ago

While your in the Doctor’s office could you have them ship me Marisa Tomei’s tits too? It would give me something to do in my spare time.

Ashley
15 years ago

My cousin had a boob job several years ago, she can’t sleep on her tummy anymore, aren’t you a tummy sleeper? Might want to look into that first. If that is no longer an issue in boob job land then who the fuck cares, get it if it will make you fit into clothes you want to wear and will ultimately lift your spirits, HA! get it LIFT! ohheeha. Now for me, I would like a big ‘ol pair of scissors to cut all this fucking excess skin off my post pregnant body…my god there is no mercy.

Noelle
Noelle
15 years ago

I’m an oncologist. I’ve seen a lot of breast implants. If you are talking about implants and not just a lift, you may want to see if you can feel one (hmm, not sure who would volunteer for that) b/c they do feel different. And you can have horrible things like capsular contraction happen (rare, but awful). In addition, although they do not cause breast cancer, they can make detection somewhat harder with mammography, so something to consider. If it’s just a lift, though, I say go for it.

Lisa B
Lisa B
15 years ago

I’d vote no, but that’s just me. I mean, how many tens of thousands of dollars would you spend, weeks of pain, drains, scar tissue, all for boobs that pretty much only you and JB are going to see? Altho I’m sure JB would pay for the surgery out of pocket for you :) but they’re going to droop permanently soon enough, why fight it? I’m a 36-38DD girl myself so I know all about industrial-size bras, but there are more important things to worry about. For me, I have hated the down time for every surgery I’ve had – and often it is much longer than the 4-6 weeks promised by the surgeon. I won’t face another unless it’s to fix something life-threatening. Cosmetic? No way.

Erin
Erin
15 years ago

As a rule, I’m not a fan of plastic surgery (not judging those who go for it, but I think it creates false expectations for beauty and aging) — but I don’t count breast reduction surgery as “vanity” plastic surgery. (Is a “breast lift” different? Presumably there would be a reduction along with a lift…?) As I understand it, though maybe this doesn’t apply to you, there are a lot of health-related reasons for wanting a breast reduction: back pain, neck pain, shoulder pain, etc. And even if health isn’t an issue, I think that not being able to wear whatever you want is a very good reason. As you say, it’s not like it’s something you can fix with diet and exercise.

My aunt had it done ages ago, and I think her only regret is that she didn’t have them reduced more. I say go for it!

Missy
15 years ago

Breastfeeding has done such a number on my boinga! I empathize, but I don’t think I’ll ever surgically enhance my boinga — not worth the money and risk and pain. And I hate most fake tits — can they make them look real?

You are one of the funniest writers out there — you make me laugh hard enough that I shoot water out my nose at least once a week. Thanks for the laugh. :-)

Laura
Laura
15 years ago

It’s major, potentially life threatening, surgery. If you don’t ‘have’ to do it, I vote no. But! If it will improve your health (backpain,etc.) then go for it.
My 2 cents. But take it with a grain of salt ’cause I’m toting around small C’s and no kiddles. :D

Jennie C.
15 years ago

DON’T DO IT!!!!!! The boinga is a lie. OK, it’s not a lie – it’s real. But the fact that there’s something better about it than what nature has provided is a lie. Embrace your saggy tatas. I haven’t been able to conceive and I’d trade perky tatas for the chance to conceive and nourish a child of my womb ANY DAY. Don’t worry, mine will sag, too – just a few years later than yours.

Becky
Becky
15 years ago

Amen to the loss of boinga….for me….in theory I’d say yes to the lift and tuck…in all reality…I am too chicken…I’d probably spend the $ elsewhere……but I so miss my perkies!

Mrs. Who
15 years ago

“bread pudding into a thimble…” Bwah ha ha ha ha haaaaaaa. So, so, (sadly) so true. After two pregnancies and breast-feeding and (ahem) some weight gain, mine also are pretty saggy. But I would not go under the knife for that. After all, who sees them? You and your husband, right? Ask him what he thinks. I bet he is just fine with the sagginess and, as long as you let him fondle them, he couldn’t possibly care less how saggy they are.

Now a mini-face lift? I might consider that. Maybe. Or maybe something with a laser. After all, my face is right out there for everyone to see!!

Oh. And also – I don’t know what size bra you wear, but I am in a 38D and I have recently discovered the Barely There bras. They are so comfortable, you can forget you have them on. And they have a great racer-back style that goes with lots of sundresses.

Amy
Amy
15 years ago

Screw that “befriend your body” stuff! Do want you want. In fact, it sounds like you want the “lift” more than an augmentation. Maybe less evasive? I think this might be a good case of having a part of your body not matching the rest so it might be a good choice. Also your husband will probably be thrilled. Also? Laughing my but off at the “stuffing a bread pudding into a thimble analogy – funny!

anna
15 years ago

Absolutely. I have, and I would again. I had liposuction, and when I’m done with babies I will have a tummy tuck. There’s no reason it should be such a big deal–I don’t see why people are so uptight about it.

jonniker
15 years ago

I’m all for it. Getting your BOINGA! back is way different than say, getting your whole face lifted into an unnatural squinty-eyed, poreless smear of spackle.

Andrea
15 years ago

Would you get a lift or implants? For some reason, it makes sense or seems ‘okay’ to get a lift but I think I would say ‘love your body, don’t do it’ to implants.

Melissa
Melissa
15 years ago

Done it twice and plan to do it two more times. Mine are considered reconstructive due to a massive 200lb weight loss. But regarding boobage I wore a D cup in the 5th grade. I now wear an unheard of 38I yes I as in Ice Cream. Look out spring time I’m going to see some gravity defying D’s again.

Donna
Donna
15 years ago

oh hell yes! I lost 150 pounds and had a face lift cuz my face was absolutely sliding off my head, and it was great, now I just look my age which is how I should look. If I had the money though, I would also get the girls done, but although the sag is hideous, under my arms loose skin is worse. I’m talking about on the sides of my chest, not my arms, although I could also fly. I can’t find bras that hold that in on the side without the fat rolling over the top of my bra. Hating it, and would do it in a heartbeat.
Do what makes YOU happy.

Mrs. Breedorf
15 years ago

When I’m done with having and nursing babies, I’m hoping to get some boinga installed myself.

JudithNYC
JudithNYC
15 years ago

Go for it! You have a nice firm body, go for the firm boobies. You deserve perky. Plus saggy boobs can become uncomfortable (don’t ask me how I know.)

sooboo
sooboo
15 years ago

Having had four, non elective surgeries before the age of ten, I swore I would never have elective surgery and I haven’t. Surgery is really hard on your body, it’s risky, and it takes a long time to recover. Not worth it. You look great.

stephanie parnell
15 years ago

I say go for a lift…I’m torn about implants though. my friend has a theory that there are 2 types of boobs…the kind that make cleavage (sit perfectly on the front of your body) and then there are A boobs. The kind that when you stand straight with your hands by your side, they make an A shape instead of cleavage. I’m all for a lift to get rid of my A boobs…told the husband we’d wait till after kids…he said ok.

Meggie
Meggie
15 years ago

Nothing against, but my current experiences with plastic surgeries were nothing but tragedy. For instance, my mother-in-law took one in her face last month, and now she wants to sue her doctor and the clinic due to the monster she had become! I don´t recommend it, folks!!

Mama Ritchie
15 years ago

I say go for it – you have worked out hard enough to see that those girls aren’t gonna snap back on their own.

Heather-in-Australia
Heather-in-Australia
15 years ago

Sounds like a physical comfort thing as well as a wanting to look your best thing, and, well, there’s nothing wrong with either of those reasons. I’d go for it.

We have a four month old and would like to try for another baby, after that, I plan to have a reduction (here, it’s actually overed by medicare and some private health covers if for a genuine health need such as reducing pressure on one’s back. In the US too or not?)

People who comment about the pain of surgery maybe don’t realise the discomfort of trying to sleep with really big boobs as it is or the outright pain they can cause to the neck, back and shoulders.

I personally think it’s just all about figuring a benefits vs. potential risks that works for each individual. (To me, personally, potential risks seem lesser than current issues, so I really do intend to go for it). Anyway, you deserve to do whatever personally feels right for you & your body & how hard you work on it is quite inspiring.

Casey
15 years ago

I’m totally moving my twins up north once I lose some weight. They’re huge and have always been but the deal was I could chop them off (reduce) after I had two kids and baby #2 turned 6 months today. I’m going to spend the next six months getting into shape and by summer I’m going under the knife. TMI?!?

Heather
15 years ago

A lift and tummy tuck are definitely in my future :) So Yeah I see nothing wrong with it. It is my reward for giving life to my three girls and nursing all three of them. I earned it! I’ll just befriend my new body. There’s nothing wrong with having new friends ;)

Amanda Brown
15 years ago

I’ll bet my boobs are WAY worse than yours. I was a fat kid growing up but then lost 50 pounds when I was 15, so already, at that tender, virginal age, my tits were lame. Now after having two kids, they are beyond hope.
I am not opposed to plastic surgery, but implants kind of freak me out. The thought of foreign objects stitched into my chest…I don’t know.
A lift, however (if it’s possible to lift two limp sweat socks) appeals to me. Along with some lipo and a tummy tuck to get rid of the loose skin of pregnancy.
I have two daughters and they are the only reason I would think twice about plastic surgery (well, the money issue is also obviously a factor) since I’d wonder about the message it’s sending them: if your body isn’t perfect, do whatever it takes to make it so.
I, like you, am torn.

jen
jen
15 years ago

“I’m totally moving my twins up north once I lose some weight. ” – Casey.. hilarious.
I too, am a few lbs away from pre-preggo (and the baby is 7) weight.. and I plan the same.. to the North I say!

Andrea
15 years ago

I rarely comment, but for some reason, I’m ignoring the screaming infant for a few seconds.

If it were a perfect world, I would get the surgery myself. But, as already mentioned, I feel that the risks totally outweigh the benefits. I’m in a profession where I see a lot of naked people (healthcare) and boobs are boobs are boobs. Post-baby boobs are the NORM, and fake ones are not. (I don’t live in LA). I also see a lot of post-surgical complications, and I would hate for something like that to happen to me because I didn’t like the way I look. I’m not willing to risk a blood clot and possibly death for a perfect chest.

FWIW, your description described my own breasts exactly. When I do wear the right bra, though, my husband has trouble keeping his eyes off my newly voluptuous cleavage. It is possible to find sexy underwear to give the girls a boost.

Quiana
15 years ago

Boob jobs are kind of scary. Is there such a thing as a boob lift? It doesn’t sound as though you want them bigger.

All your talk is making the girls quake in their errr… boots. I’m trying to shed a little weight (mostly so my Wii Fit will stop criticizing me) but if righty starts to go bellybutton-ward, I will eat mooncakes like there is literally no tomorrow.

Melody
Melody
15 years ago

I guess I have a kind of opposite problem. I am so, uh, under-ly endowed that a standard A-cup bra rarely fits. Clothes, too, are problematic, because I can never fill out the top. Unless I can find a mythical nearly-A bra, every bra I buy has to be a push-up, padded number, otherwise there are problems with gaping and scrunching. And sometimes I would rather not wear something involving quite so much padding. Sometimes I would just like things to be held in place!

Still, I don’t think I could ever go the surgery route. I have a family member who got herself a new set, and really, it just looks kind of awkward and unnatural on her. Not that there’s anything wrong with awkward and unnatural if that’s what someone’s going for!

Lara
Lara
15 years ago

I’ve had a reduction and personally – no loss of sensation and only slept on my back for a month or so and it didn’t hurt that much at ALL. I’d rank it as “uncomfortable” rather than “painful”.

My surgery was a boyfriend or two ago and I had to point out the scars to them – they are basically unnoticeable.

(I told a friend that my bruised boobs were all yellow and the doctor had drawn on me and stitched in purple and she goes “GO LAKERS”, oh man I laughed…Yay Laker Tits!)

ANYWAYS.

I guess what I’m saying is for me it has been entirely positive and I’m pretty sure the lift procedure is relatively the same as a reduction (in terms of the incisions, etc).

I’d do it again in a heartbeat. Also, I still have big-ish boobs, so yay!

Rebecca
15 years ago

It’s funny that you mention it. It’s been a thought in my mind lately as well, and anyone who knows me would be absolutely shocked, but after I’m done having kids, I would consider it.

I’m totally fine with my boobs right now, but I know they’re going to change with pregnancy & breastfeeding. They’re big, and I know they’re going to get bigger. They’re holding up just fine now, but I know that’s going to change. So yes, I would seriously consider it… but not till I’m done nursing my babies. :)

warcrygirl
15 years ago

There’s nothing wrong with putting the girls back where they belong, ya know?

Half Assed Kitchen
15 years ago

I’ve had two nose jobs and I’d do it again. If I had any boobs to lift, I’d do that too.

karion
karion
15 years ago

I was pretty sure it was a lift you were talking about, not implants. Like many others here, I completely understand a lift and am skeeved out by implants.

I have been the chick with the big tits since 6th grade, no matter how fit I am (and I was a gymnast, which made things even more awkward). If the right circumstance came up, I would definitely go for a lift (or, as my friend calls it, a reorganization of the mammaries). For me – as it seems for you – it would have to be done when I was in my best physical shape.

I would definitely go for it.

Maria
15 years ago

My greatest dream…is that my two children (toddler and infant) will both get full scholarships to college, and I will be able to take all the money I’m stashing away and buy myself a new kitchen and a boob lift.

Nope, no issues about it here! I would love to see these flat pancakes turn back into a version of their former selves.

Kara
Kara
15 years ago

I got ’em, and they ROCK!

Holly
15 years ago

The thought of surgery of any kind, elective at that! scares the crap out of me. Having said that, I’m 29 and haven’t had kids yet, so what do I know?

Still thinking on the dress front . . . you could probably hide a lot of bra hardware under something like this, if you had a bra with wide set straps: http://www.overstock.com/Clothing/Donna-Ricco-Womens-Sleeveless-Open-Back-Dress/3367778/product.html

Hanh
Hanh
15 years ago

I think if the outcome of a surgery looks and feels good and natural and the risks involved are low, I would go for it if the “flaw” bothers me enough to make it worth the money.
I guess I would feel a bit guilty for taking part in creating false standards that can negatively affect other women … but the guilt probably will not prevent me from getting it done.

Sarah
Sarah
15 years ago

Dood. I would totally get fake boobies later on, and not feel bad about it. I wouldn’t do anything to my face, but boobs, hellz yes. Why not?

Anonymous
Anonymous
15 years ago

The second I knock a few kids out I’m having a reduction and lift. I’m 24 and I already know it’s in the cards for me. 34 DDD’s make their way south wayyyy too soon. Stupid genes.

Swistle
15 years ago

Ever since I became aware of the existence of (1) “having work done” and (2) having to eat one’s words, I’ve been saying I am ALL FOR having work done. Because it is sooooo embarrassing when teenagers and people in their twenties say they would NEVER have it done, NEVER! and then that’s awk later on in life to have that on the record.

Moderndayhermit
15 years ago

While I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing it – NO WAY. While it is not THAT risky I wouldn’t risk something going wrong and my son not having a mother because I wanted perkier tits.

I’m not saying that in a judgmental fashion, by the way.

Merideth
Merideth
15 years ago

I just want mine to be back where they belong. I’m considering getting a lift myself.