I shouldn’t let this kind of shit bother me, but when you read a comment like “I question how much she really loves and nurtures her children. Why did she choose to have another, and heaven forbid she does it again. What will her boys think of her and how she feels about them when they are old enough to read what she says about them?”, it really sort of drops a wet turd on your morning. Not because I believe this to be true in any way shape or form, but because I feel unhappy that people like that have access to the stories I share about my life and my children’s lives.

I read a great quote recently that had to do with sanctimonious parents who say they feel bad for other people’s kids — kids whose parents make different choices than the person doing the judging — it was something like, “I won’t feel sorry for your kids if you won’t feel sorry for mine.” I admire that, because it’s a taking-the-high-road sort of response, and I wish I could feel that way.

But you know, I don’t. I DO feel sorry for kids whose parents act like the people who take the time out of their loving, nurturing lives to write cruel comments about parents they don’t even know, because those children are being raised in an environment of intolerance. They’re going to learn that it’s perfectly okay to call names and to treat each other like crap, all because someone’s lifestyle isn’t the same as their own.

It’s the same old story, we’ve heard this junk a million times before, I know. I’ll just never understand why we can’t disagree with each other without resorting to below-the-belt behavior.

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(Portrait of a resentful, unloving family. If seen, please report to the nearest authority. Possibly a hairstylist, because WHOAH.)

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Keaton
Keaton
15 years ago

I find that woman’s comments to be completely ridiculous. Frankly, from what I’ve read here and based on my own experiences, I think you’re going to be an awesome mom; the mom that all the other kids say, “Man, you’re mom is so awesome,” to which some awkward but heartfelt reply will inevitably follow [scene]. Because really? If CIO is tame enough of a topic to be discussed in Meet the Parents 2 (yes, I saw it), then there’s nothing to get so worked up over. Differences are differences, but clearly sometimes willful segregation from alternative ideas is necessary *eye roll*.

Michelle
Michelle
15 years ago

I really do hate when moms turn against each other. Being a parent is tough. I simply can’t imagine that all of us would agree on how to do it but I just wish we could all be a bit more supportive.

Which, um, also applies to those of you reading here and then going over to talk smack on that other blog.

Let it ride. Life is too short for this kind of crap.

Um, yeah…so let’s make s’mores and sing kumbayah now.

hannah
15 years ago

“Of all the people I know who have given birth in the last 24 months G is the only one who shouldnt have their child taken away from them.”

Wow. You know an awful lot of horrible people, then. I hope you have reported their acts of child abuse to the proper authorities. What did they say? And what did the parents say when you confronted them?

Because I assume you are talking about horrific acts of abuse, and don’t just blithely go around declaring people should have their children taken away because you don’t approve of what they feed them, or what (if any) tv they let them watch, or some other minor, none of your business parenting difference.

mrsgryphon
mrsgryphon
15 years ago

I clicked over to her blog to see what all the fuss was about, and honestly. I’m just sad. I’m sad that this judgement STILL exists, in so many ways and various forms – not just parenting issues and not just from her side! Sundry readers have gotten a little explosive and judgmental themselves. I really wonder if we’re ever going to get it right and realize that people all have different frames of reference and different reactions to situations. You can NEVER know what you would do in someone else’s situation. No one should ever assume to know what is right for another person’s family. Happy, healthy, thriving children are the end-goal, how you get there is up to the parents of that child.

hannah
15 years ago

(And if you think CIO is some horrific act of abuse I would invite you to go back in time and see what my son was like before and after Ferber.)

NK
NK
15 years ago

Amanda: Apparently, she is also one of the most judgmental and bitter people in the world. You whine about the readers here going to find and insult her, and yet G went out of her way to say, while sitting atop her high horse, that she will no longer be reading Linda’s blog and that “Some parents just shouldn’t have kids.” But then, maybe you are friends with her because you are the same way. Either you don’t know many people who have given birth in the last two years, or you are as judgmental as she is.

Linda: Don’t be discouraged by one or two idiots. You are seriously one of the greatest bloggers out there, and an even more awesome mother. Dylan and Riley are lucky to have you as a mom, and JB is a fortunate guy. ;)

That said, I agree that we shouldn’t be over there calling the blogger a b****. It’s fine to disagree, but can we do it civilly? She’ll get hers – what comes around, goes around, eh?

Hue
Hue
15 years ago

Oh Linda, you said it so well. I really wish I knew you in person. We could share a root beer and shake our heads at the silliness and sadness of it all.

And I stand behind the use of earplugs. They ROCK.

Lesley
Lesley
15 years ago

Amanada writes: “Wow it must be nice for all of you to follow Linda’s life so attentively over the internet. To go out of your way to, not only find the other person, but write wretched things on their page, and then repeatedly come back to continue.”

Amanda, everything you just wrote is what Gillian does continuously. Linda’s post today is in reaction to Gillian’s repeated meanness and dishonesty. Gllian has written “wretched” things about Linda repeatedly in her posts and in comments. It’s been evident for some time that she doesn’t like Linda and yet she obsessively reads her and comments on her. What’s up with that?

Yes there are a lot of shitty breeders out there. Linda isn’t one of them. Ok? And if you think she is you lack judgement and probably should avoid breeding yourself. A reaonable IQ and a wise heart are two essentials for good breeding, me thinks.

Bitter Betty
15 years ago

Listen, your parenting is fine. It’s your taste in sweater/shoe combos that should be questioned.

;)

ali
ali
15 years ago

Please don’t let that hurt your feelings. There are people out there who declare any difference from their opinion “bad” or “wrong” and they are not worth your energy. I would rather read the blog of a mother who happens to use a few parenting methods I don’t practice then the blog of a woman who makes blind accusations and lumps “abuse” and “neglect” into the same category as “parenting techniques I don’t use.”

NK
NK
15 years ago

Oh, and also, I love that picture. And the caption.

Amanda
15 years ago

“And if you think she is you lack judgement and probably should avoid breeding yourself. A reaonable IQ and a wise heart are two essentials for good breeding, me thinks. ”

Say what?

I dont think linda is a horrible breeder. That wasnt my point at all although i can see where you pulled that from. I dont read linda’s blog. I dont find it interesting. Ive tried to a hand full of times but nothing compels me to it. Im glad you all find some comfort and amusement in it. If linda chooses to CIO it her business. If G decides to call her on it its her business. If Linda decides to call G on callig her on it… see where this becomes the worlds DUMBEST cycle. And each and every one of us is perpetuating it and causing more stress in one anothers lives than is nessicary.

Btw i know 18 people who have given birth. And I lied. G and 3 others are the only ones who should have given birth. The others were all too emotionally fucked up to every nurture a child properly.

NK
NK
15 years ago

Intriguing how it becomes the ‘dumbest cycle’ when Linda responds, and not when G stuck her nose into Linda’s business and publicly announced her distaste for this blog. You are incredibly biased.

So you are comfortable with saying that fifteen of the new mothers that you know are bad parents and don’t deserve kids? Either you are friends with some pretty sucky people, or you have an ridiculously judgmental attitude.

Kristin
Kristin
15 years ago

Yeah, that was definitely below the belt behavior. I really hate gossip and think if you can’t take your problem to the person, then you should keep your mouth shut. That discussion over there reminds me of a Junior High popularity contest. Queen B is getting her swarm gathered around her.

Samantha
15 years ago

I went over there, and was really angry after reading her post. It is one thing to disagree, but to put it out there is kind of tacky. I started to write an angry reply, but managed to stop myself, I kept it as civil as I possibly could.

I did say that if she honestly believed that what you are doing is abuse, then she should call the authorities, but that she shouldn’t be surprised when they laughed at her and hung up.

This whole thing makes me sad. Why can’t mothers just love each other right where we are at, no judgments?

sweetsalty kate
15 years ago

Some people have a certain maturity and grace and good humour – bloggers and commenters both. Many don’t.

You do.

annie
annie
15 years ago

Its funny how she thinks its just CIO mothers agree with you, but I am a breastfeeding, co-sleeping attachment parenting mother who TOTALLY thinks that Gillian is a judgmental idiot who has no interest in learning about anything other than what she is interested in. She couldnt possibly take a look at the other side of things because she is waaaaay to self absorbed.
She is just bummed because she doesnt have a life outside of her kid.
I was going to post this comment in her blog, but I know she wouldnt listen anyway.
By the way, I love your blog and I think you are doing a great job as a mother and woman.
love annie

erin
15 years ago

Yeah, that sucks, but did you see all the people who came to your defense? Because we all are going to parent our kids differently and CIO is SO nowhere NEAR child abuse. I really don’t understand why she posted that instead of just not reading your blog anymore.

I know it’s hard to let that kind of stuff not get to you, but you know how much you love your boys. And everyone (except her) knows, too, just by reading your blog.

Gillian
15 years ago

I do have a life outside my child- I’m a business owner. Get it straight.

SraV
SraV
15 years ago

Oh, for crying out loud. Team Linda.

banana
15 years ago

Ugh. That sort of thing is completely absurd. Completely absurd. First of all, to equate the Ferber method with child abuse is just silly, but most importantly to, insist that there is only one way to be – one way to manage and comfort your family – is closed minded and sad. I’m sorry you have to hear that kind of crap.

Alex
15 years ago

I, also, am Team Linda.

Momma
Momma
15 years ago

I can’t keep up. But wonder what your motive was when you linked her blog?

Lesley
Lesley
15 years ago

Amanda writes: I dont read linda’s blog. I dont find it interesting. Ive tried to a hand full of times but nothing compels me to it.
————

If you don’t read this blog, if it doesn’t resonate with you, if you are not compelled to read it, why are you here being snidely judgemental? (Perpetuating the “dumbest cycle” as you describe it.)

Secondly, if you read the blog instead of the gossip and innuendo about it, you’d know Linda is a caring mother who would throw herself under a bus for her kids. As a former child of a “bad mother,” I have excellent radar for real abuse, even the subtle variety, and I detect none of that here.

Third, Gillian’s offense isn’t her disagreement with CIOing, it’s that she behaves like a complete and utter Dick in how she communicates her disagreement. Calling Linda a child abuser is an express invitation to a flame war.

Anyone who starts something like that can expect blow back and if they can’t handle it, they should think twice before they open their yaps.

I am fairly confident Gillian will continue reading this blog as she has condemned it in the past only to return again and gain.

You know, Amanda, there are people out there who might think you are an unfit role model because you haven’t learned basic punctuation and grammar. Yeah, it’s hard not being perfect.

Poppy
15 years ago

Gillian has closed comments on her site. I tried to leave it on a different post but I’m not sure it worked.Since it is obvious that’ despite her assurances otherwise’ she is still reading here I’ll leave this post here for her:

I think it’s completely disingenuous for you to be up in arms about the comments you are getting here. Really. What exactly did you think was going to happen when you wrote your blog post about no longer reading Linda’s blog and then just had to go ahead and link to it?? Attention seeker much?

Did you think Linda’s friends and those who support her were going to want to become friends with you? Maybe invite you to tea? Have a play date with you and your son?

Seriously you had to know what you did would result in this shit storm. You had to have. And knowing that people were going to come over here and give you shit, you STILL did what you did. So don’t try to say you weren’t looking for attention. That’s crap.

This isn’t the first blog land dust up you’ve gotten into or started. If I were you I’d think I’d start trying to figure out what is so lacking in my life that I feel the need to go around cyberspace and create dissension. Then I’d fix it. Because it’s obvious to just about all of us that you do this kind of thing in an effort to make yourself feel that you are better than those you criticize.

You’ve changed a lot, Gillian. A lot. Unfortunately it’s not for the better.

I posted some rude comments on Linda’s site. For that I’ll apologize. I really should not have allowed your most recent stunt to piss me off that much. But for you to have to make your decision to not read Linda’s blog anymore and public event was totally unnecessary. There are many, many aspects of your parenting style that are off the wall to say the least. I don’t see anyone berating you. Calling you a child abuser. You’ve been left along to raise your child as you see fit. Leave others alone to do the same.

shauna
15 years ago

Okay seriously. Some people have absolutely no sense of humor. If they really *read* the blog and feel like you don’t love your children…umm…screw ’em. Ya know? While I personally never let my daughter cry it out …it was my choice and it worked for us. I also never slept through the night and either did she for 3 years. I can’t say that was necessarily great for her either. Point is? My kid. It worked for us. Sort of, most of the time. If you’re so flipping rigid in everything you do that you can’t read a blog because of one thing you disagree with? I feel sooo sorry for your kids. That’s not going to be fun when they are teens.

Cetta
15 years ago

See there? You took the high road.

You’re right in that people like that can squawk all they want about how perfect their parenting skills are, but all they’re teaching those kids is the different is bad. We have enough of that in this country.

Amanda
15 years ago

I never said i was friends with them. I said I knew them. There is a difference. And I am biased. Thats what friendship is. A bias towards one person over another. /end transmission

annie
annie
15 years ago

I actually retract the mean parts of my comment, because I dont want to be like her and call names and judge.
So, Im sorry about those parts, but everything else is a go.
love annie

Anonymous
Anonymous
15 years ago

So, I guess she is against gay marrage, abortion, and pretty mush anything else that has to do with your right to decide something for yourself, huh.

Joan
Joan
15 years ago

To be honest I was unaware of this little bit of nastiness going on until I popped by Gillian’s blog, then followed the drama here.

Gillian is a friend of mine and a mother whom I greatly respect.
I’m not here to attack or defend either side, opinions are like asses in here, we all got them, some bigger than others.
The thing I find ironic is on all sides of the debate I hear the denouncing of ignorant comments, cheap insults and vicious digs left about either side meant to vilify the other, yet the ones attacking the “cruel, immature, nasty and downright vicious comments” left by the other side, are responding in far nastier commentaries.

Do any of you really feel your point is all that much more valid by telling Linda “I’m on Team Linda” or “Gillian’s a bitch” or “Ash can’t sleep without his moms boob in his mouth”?
Seriously, you start out to make a comment to validate someones opinion that you value in some manner or respect, but your whole intention is lost when you cater your comments to the lowest common denominator and wind up sounding like trailor trash.

You become what you are here to speak out against. You stand with your beliefs held high that it so wrong to judge or attack based on differing opinions, yet I read this blog and all I see is far crueler attacks, so your possibly valid points are lost in a litany or vicious rhetoric.

Annsy
Annsy
15 years ago

Long time lurker, de-lurking for one time only to just say that I’m sorry, and to echo what someone said on typealice’s website, which was that parenting is hard enough without us all judging each other’s parenting decisions. I hope you don’t let this bug you too long. I’ll try to let it go, too!

-Proud and Loving (and well-rested!) CIOer

Rachelle
15 years ago

Wow.

I read a number of mommyblogs and daddyblogs, in the hopes that when I finally crank a kid out, I’ll have some clue about what to expect, and what to do. Regardless of how they parent their children, there are lessons I can learn.

I just wanted to say that I appreciate your blog. Thanks for sharing.

Jess
15 years ago

Wow. Just wow. Sorry about the virtriol headed your way via crazy self-righteous nut jobs. We love you.

YOU are the first “mommy blog” that I ever stumbled upon (purple is a fruit), which in turn lead me to reading blogs in general. In an attempt to not overstate things I’ll just say, you changed my life. Truly. I was in a period of such severe post-partum that I didn’t know which way was up. I don’t have a mother figure in my life and as such felt quite alone after my first was born. You helped me find light (cheesy much?) again. I sought help and stopped blaming myself for everything (or at least i started trying). Thanks for being such a positive influence in my life.

Mary
15 years ago

It must be nice to be so perfect and so sure of herself that she never even reads disagreeing opinions. This, right here, is what’s wrong with this country today. People decide what they know, and then ignore any information that they disagree with. I myself like disagreements. Sometimes I actually GASP learn something!

Don’t let the turkeys get you down. Anybody who’s read you for more than two weeks knows how you really feel about your boys. My kids are much older than yours, but I laughed and laughed at the idea of you fondling the Benadryl. I so remember those days!

g~
g~
15 years ago

I have often found that often those who cling so desperately to their judgments and their judgmental-ness do so out of a deep-seated lack of confidence in their own decisions. It is only with time and perspective (and parenting experience) do we realize that all of this is kind of inconsequential and petty. No one will ever care whether your college graduate, high school graduate or kindergartener co-slept, breastfed, cried it out, bottle fed, was born via C, or potty trained early. In reality, most people grow up not remembering or caring anything about the parts of their lives that seem so damn important to their parents.
I would much rather teach my kids to be open to other’s opinions, be respectful and to maintain balance and perspective.
g~
Good God, I sound all Mother Earth, don’t I? Need to watch UFC immediately.

Jan
Jan
15 years ago

OMG my head hurts with all this nonsense.

G, since you are obviously still reading this blog, your views suck but to each their own. In the future, play nice. Child Abuser? Hardly.

Sundry-you rock. You’re an awesome mother and writer. I enjoy reading your blog. Being a mom is hard work and there are a lot of us going through the exact same thing as you.

tea.
tea.
15 years ago

i dunno, i never understood people who feel the need to make a big song and dance about things they’ve done so that people pay attention to them and pat them on the back for it. and god forbid they get any NEGATIVE attention, then they start harping on about how MISUNDERSTOOD they are or they didn’t mean it LIKE THAT and blame it on someone else. sweet jeebus, either shut your trap and don’t say anything to start with, or OWN your opinion. don’t be half assed.

personally i didn’t like the idea of CIO until i had a kid that didn’t nap AT ALL for the first 4 and a half months of his life. i’m talking, awake all day, screaming his head off because he was so overtired but he didn’t know how to self settle. feeding to sleep stopped working, we tried a bunch of AP things, we got in a warm fuzzy sleep therapist who suggested we pat him on the back until he fell into slumber (he HATED having us in the room but not picking him up) – in desperation at almost five months we tried CIO. took three days and he now has regular naps and sleeps well at night. i totally cannot express the ENOURMOUS change in him, like someone flew down in a magical spaceship and took away this screaming banshee baby and replaced him with a child who SMILES and LAUGHS and is ENJOYABLE and thinks things are FUNNY. he was MISERABLE before and now he’s not. it sucks that nothing else worked but if anyone tried to tell me that i’d caused him irreparable damage because we let him cry a bit, as opposed to letting him continue on with no day sleeps at all, hysterical and overtired – i think i’d be hard pressed to suppress a giggle. child abuse? good lord. its not as though i took him out the back an whacked him around with a plank of wood.

there’s plenty of other, much better things in the world to get all het up about.

Lesley
Lesley
15 years ago

Joan, I trust you left your same comment, verbatim, on Gillian’s blog? No?

(Anything less would betray your bias and deprive your friend of your sound advice.)

Btw, I don’t regret calling the spade a spade. Bullies who slander and lie about people piss me off.

Jenny
Jenny
15 years ago

Well, I’m a newish reader only recently non-lurking, and I can honestly say, Linda, that I think you’re fantastic. There’s my childish “TEAM LINDA” comment.

As far as all the other BS…wow. I haven’t seen blog drama like this since I was a cubicle-dwelling, Xanga-posting techie who had no life outside of a call center. :) I will say that I think you’ve handled it well. No comment about the other blogger.

And as far as the CIO/anti-CIO debate goes, can we parents all just stop the “my way or the highway” crap and SUPPORT each other? Before I had my son, I was obnoxiously vocal about all the things I would and wouldn’t do — I’d ONLY breastfeed, I’d co-sleep, I’d wear the baby in a hand-made organic cotton sling while singing him world music and letting him breathe filtered air in our zero-carbon footprint home.

Yeah. Uh huh.

Eight months later my bottle-fed, crib-sleeping, non-organic baby food eating, occasional Sesame Street watching, pacifier chewing baby is totally happy, healthy, and the joy of my life. I made choices to keep him healthy and happy, to keep MYSELF sane, and to keep my marriage from turning into a giant poop sandwich. I’m sorry — after a nasty C-section and post-partum depression, I don’t think I could have done it any other way. So I guess that makes me a child abuser? Who knows. My point is, we each have to make choices that are right for US and our children. And we should respect other parents’ rights to do the same. I don’t agree with the choices other folks make for their kids, but they’re not MY kids.

Anyway, I’ll end my vino-fueled babble with this: Linda, you’re great, I love your blog, do what YOU think is right for your kids and all will be well.

Sarah Miller
15 years ago

Your honesty makes this blog a treasure. It’s both refreshing and reassuring.

thejunebug
thejunebug
15 years ago

Poor Linda. Fuck them all. They’ll get bored and move on with their pointless, small lives (probably voting for McCain) and we’ll still be here for you. Mwah!

Katie (the Yap)
15 years ago

Please don’t ever change. The reason that this is the FIRST BLOG I READ is because you are HONEST. And hilarious. And a GREAT parent. I wish I were more like you…..

ashleas
ashleas
15 years ago

If Sundry’s a Child Abuser for letting her children cry themselves to sleep.. than what am I when I have my little mental daydreams of socking the crying 6 year old child that’s grating my nerves in the supermarket?

Lot worse people out there than Sundry that you should be worried about.
I adore Sundry’s Blog. She’s made me a little less hateful towards the idea of having children one day but we’ll get there, one step at a time, if I’m meant to have kids. Which I am not planning on for the sheer reason that I could not handle it like the rest of you brave women.

;)

Sarah0
Sarah0
15 years ago

Ugh. I just read a couple of those comments you linked to. Who ARE these people?? Seriously, everyone at some point or another are counting down to bedtime. They are either in denial or smoking something funny. Ooooh, I cherish every single minute, blah blah blah. I call bullshit. We are all people and need our own little bit of me time at some point. Liars.

As for CIO, I wasn’t a fan either. I swore I would never do it. But hey, you know what happened? I had a child. A child, who at 10 months, still woke up several times a night. She wasn’t the wee tiny little baby they describe in their posts. Awww, how helpless is she that she is actually capable of manipulating me? It’s not like you leave Dylan screaming for hours and hours. It’s minutes people. And you are helping him learn how to put himself to sleep without the help of someone else.

Sorry, I don’t judge the people who are still nursing their 4-year-olds (okay, I do, but I keep those comments to myself). Kids are different as are parents…we all do things differently. It doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It’s just what is right for us.

wealhtheow
15 years ago

I’m really speechless. I’m not sure how she got from you using earplugs to get through the 10 minutes of Dylan fussing to you lying in your bed with earplugs sleeping through Dylan screaming for hours.

When I was pregnant, the one thing I was sure about was that I wasn’t going to take anything off the table–I’d wait and see what worked for my kid, and then when a particular technique didn’t work anymore. Ferberizing never worked for my kid–he just gets more worked up when I go in to soothe him. If I leave him on his own he’s down in 15 minutes tops. I can tell from his cries if he’s just protesting his nap or if he’s really upset or scared–and I’m sure you can tell with Dylan as well.

Melanie
Melanie
15 years ago

I can’t tell you how many times your blog has helped me Linda to not feel so alone. Please don’t let people like that sway you from stopping this wonderful site. I so look forward to reading it!! It’s what I choose to do in my precious free time. People like that are worth wasting the words on.

StyckyWycket
15 years ago

Not only do I love that she got on her soapbox/blog to decry your parenting methods, she was immature and passive aggressive with her parting shot. Bullying? Really? Maybe she should have realized words have repercussions when she posted them to potentially the whole world on her blog.

Ugh, whatever. I hate holier-than-thou, in any form.

But it still sucks to be rejected, by jerks or best friends. It’s okay to be a little hurt.

clarabella
15 years ago

Well, I think this whole thing has blown up into a nice, solid shit storm, don’t you?
I’m not going to post anything negative about Typealice or her blog because I don’t read it. From the little I did read (because of this situation), I don’t agree with her views, so I wouldn’t anyway.
I have to agree that slinging even more mud into the pit she got started only perpetuates what most of us are bitching about.
What works for me (or you or anyone else, for that matter) may not work for you (or her or anyone else, for that matter), but you will never hear me publicly judge anyone for his/her parenting choices. (No, I save those for the privacy of my telephone conversations with close friends, who agree with me, but we keep it OFFLINE.) We’re all (hopefully) trying as hard and as well as we know how to raise healthy, happy children, without going insane ourselves. I say more power to you doing it however you need to.
One final question: I wonder, does Gillian work for ParentDish yet? And if not, perhaps she would fit in quite nicely over there. (Sorry, I had to get a little snark in, for you, Linda. But honestly, I’d never attack her parenting choices, merely her blogging strategies.)

Lara
Lara
15 years ago

Good gravy marie. You know, I don’t have kids, but I really think if/when I ever do, I’m perfectly willing to let the little bastards cry it out. Kidding (about the bastards part). Even I, a non-mother, can see that different things work for different people – I have friends who let their kids CIO and they’re now angels, and others who tried that and it just didn’t work. Do I judge either of them? Ehhh, no.

For what it’s worth, I hope if I ever have kids I am just like you. Able to laugh at the hard parts (because I imagine one would explode if they did not), loving and caring and awesomely continuing to live YOUR life – making time for you (getting in shape), etc. Sometimes I think some moms get bitter (that’s probably not the right word…?) because they give “it all up” to be a super mom and they lose their perspective or something? And they seem to take it out on other moms and whoa, why would anyone think it’s being a Super Mom to be intolerant? I really don’t know, but man it’s not nice to see.

I like how that one commenter said she’s read “the Sundry blog”, snort. Also that your “cussing is relieving”. What does that even mean?

OK enough outta me, don’t want that to sound like a personal attack.

You rule. Also, I believe one thing I truly remember from my parents was “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” I really wonder why that woman took the time to write that. Why not unsubscribe and STFU?

Anyways. Again. You rule.